Let’s face it. Whether the rest of society wants to admit it or not, sex appeal absolutely matters. Whether or not you have it can affect your self-esteem, how other people treat you, and even whether or not you get ahead at work. It certainly affects the quality of your love life, especially when it comes to appealing to the high-quality men you know you deserve.
However, sex appeal is about more than sexy underwear or being good in bed. It’s also the kind of thing no woman can have too much of. So whether you’re looking to get in touch with your inner vixen for the first time or simply want to add some new tricks to your current repertoire, the following tips are worth considering.
1. Flirt Like you Mean It.
The world is full of attractive folks, but very few of them actually know how to flirt with absolute confidence. As a result, even perfect tens seem to lose their cool and fail to make the most of the opportunities they want most when connecting with other people.
That’s what makes a bold person who flirts like they mean it so hard to resist. Nothing’s sexier than a beautiful, intelligent woman who not only knows what (and who) she wants but isn’t afraid to go after it like an absolute boss. Make the first move. Speak with confidence. Remind yourself that you’re a catch, and carry yourself like it.
2. Master the Art of Great Conversation.
If you’ve ever had the pleasure of spending time with a genuinely great conversationalist, then you already know how sexy that quality can be. Such people have a fantastic way of not only keeping the conversation effortlessly flowing but of making the other person feel like the only one in the room. So if you want an easy way to become infinitely sexier and more appealing, learn to converse like a champ. It’s a sure way to snag you a rich boyfriend who reward your effort with gifts, travel and new experiences.
The key to keeping a conversation flowing naturally is to always be on the lookout for conversational doors – little openings in the flow of interaction that make it easy to keep things going. For instance, if a person mentions college or grad school, resist the urge to simply ask them what they studied. Instead, ask them something that allows you to know them more intimately – like what they dreamed of doing with their degree.
3. Dress to Show Off Your Shape.
Contrary to popular belief, the key to a body that drives men wild isn’t being stick-skinny or even super-fit. Instead, it’s your ability to accentuate the natural poetry of your waist-to-hip ratio. So even if you’re curvier, there will still be a marked difference between the size of your hips and the size of your waist.
Dress to show that off with confidence, and prepare to turn heads and create magnetic sexual tension. Think waist-defining belts, sashes, or clothing accents combined with well-tailored pants or pencil skirts. Heels and other footwear that help define your legs and encourage you to carry yourself with grace can be game-changers, as well.
4. Resist the Urge to Vent or Complain.
We get it. Life is a pain sometimes, and it’s often far from fair. Venting about whatever’s been going wrong in your life can be really tempting when someone else seems willing to listen. But you’ll want to resist that urge anytime you’re looking to maximize your sex appeal, especially in any kind of dating situation.
Nobody likes a complainer, especially a man looking forward to a magical night out with an attractive woman, so save the venting for your journal. Instead, focus on having a good time and being your fabulously effervescent self. You’ll both have a better time, guaranteed.
5. Know Your Way Around Your Makeup bag.
Although you often hear men insist that they prefer women who don’t wear makeup, research actually shows that they’re most attracted to women who use makeup in artful ways to subtly enhance their natural looks. So given a choice between going bare-faced and wearing a full face of makeup, go for the full face. But learn how to apply it in a professional, flattering way.
Figure out the correct shade of foundation for your skin tone and apply it sparingly to give your skin a flawless, natural-looking finish. Get to know your face and experiment with artful ways to enhance your best features. When in doubt, opt for natural tones and nudes that enhance your beauty without being garish. And don’t be afraid to ask a beautician or stylist for help if you’re unsure what looks best on you.
At the end of the day, sex appeal can be hard to put a finger on, but it’s very simple underneath it all. It’s really about understanding other people and making the most of the unique person you know yourself to be. Try it and see for yourself!